Something To Think About

“You can’t
change your
life by doing
the same things
every day.”
~Cara Alwill Leyba

Just the other day I finally got my Style Your Mind workbook written by Cara Alwill Leyba. This was the first quote in the book and it is crazy how much I have resonated with it. Because in reality unless you change something that you are doing or have been doing for a long time nothing in your life will be any different. You can wish and wish that things will be different or better but unless you put in some of the work nothing is going to change. It all really depends on you and how much you want something.

The past couple of years I have done a lot of studying about The Secret and the power of your mind. I know a lot of people think that it just seems stupid to just sit and think about all of the things that you want in life and hope that the universe will bring them to you and that everything in your life will be much better. Well, only part of that is true. You have to get clear about what you want. You have to train your mind to stop complaining all the time and seeing all of the negative around you all the time. Now, I’m not saying that having a bad day or feeling some negative feelings are bad, it is just when you are so focused on those negative feelings every day that they seem to take over every area of your life. You have to manage those thoughts and manage your decisions about things. Then really start to work hard for what you want.

I decided to buy the book Stye Your Mind because recently I have felt stuck. Just not knowing where to turn. I am a planner and I like to have goals that I can set and work toward. However, I have never been so undecided about which way I want my life to go. I think that I am finally at a point in my life where I have free range to kind of do what ever I really want. Before I finished high school then went to college which was what everyone was doing. Then I got a job (that I didn’t like) in order to pay my bills and my student loans. So, really, everything that I have done before this were things that I had to do and not necessarily things that I wanted to do in order to change my life.

Now that I am staying at home to raise our son I have time to think about what I would like to try and do with my life. Even if it just starts out as something on the side for now until he is in school. However, there are so many different things that interest me that it is hard to set specific goals to try and achieve something. Then you throw into the mix trying to balance what I want with being a mom and I am at a loss as to which way to go.

I have only started this workbook, however, I am finding it to be very unique and very much something that I need in my life right now. I am a firm believer that I know what I need to do it is just a matter of almost talking it out and finding my own answer within me. Cara is a master life coach and bestselling author. I started following her through her blog The Champagne Diet and now I follow her on social media and listen to her podcasts. This workbook that she has created is full of questions. Questions that make you think about the different areas of your life and it has definitely made me see things differently already. I am realizing different things that I have been doing that have been blocking me from what I really want. I have realized different things about my life and what I thought I really wanted has kind of changed a bit.

I am excited to finish this workbook and to see what other discoveries and aha moments I have. If you are someone like me that has been to talk with a therapist and they just don’t seem to be the right thing to help you figure out stuff in your life, I recommend trying out this book and seeing if you can make some discoveries as well!

Good Books To Read

Before I had my son I was a very avid reader. Ever since I could remember I was always reading books. Whenever we would go on vacation I would check out as many books the library would let me take (most of the time our family vacations were 2-3 weeks traveling in an RV). When I was a freshman in high school I got really into reading about the Holocaust. I read as many books as I could get my hands on. Including one of my English teachers letting me borrow her personal books to read about the subject. A lot of people have no idea that this topic is super intriguing to me. A lot of people ask me why I am so obsessed with it and honestly I have no idea. I think a lot of it has to do with the stories behind the people and how the human mind is a very powerful thing. A lot of times the mind can either make you or break you. All of the survivor stories shows just how much people can go through and can over come. I even took a semester class in college about the Holocaust. If you want a great book about one of the death camps that people actually escaped from check out Escape from Sobibor: The Heroic Story of the Jews Who Escaped from a Nazi Death Camp.  I will say that after reading and studying about this so much I definitely had to take a break from reading these types of books.

After college I did not read as much as did when I was younger but whenever there was a good series that a lot of people were talking about I would usually check it out. Now that my little guys is almost 3 it is getting easier for me to pick up a book and read through it. When he was younger I only found myself reading parenting books. I do read some books just for fun but not as many anymore. Most of the books that I read today, however, tend to be more motivational and inspiring. I have been reading more about relationships and learning about how the way you speak to yourself matters a great deal with how your life turns out. I don’t know if this is sort of my version of a mid life crisis since I will be turning 30 this year and feel like I am no where close to where I thought I was going to be at this age. My life has definitely taken some different twists and turns that I did not expect or plan for. So for now, reading some books and trying to learn to be ok with where I am now and figure out what I really want out of my life is where I find myself.

Some of the motivational and inspiring books I have really enjoyed are:

Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn
The Magic Path of Intuition by Florence Shovel Shinn
You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero

Some of the books for moms that I have been reading now that I have a very strong willed toddler include:

Jo Frost’s Confident Toddler Care: The Ultimate Guide to the Toddler Years
Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior
What Every Mom Needs by Elisa Morgan and Carol Kuykendall (This one is really good for stay at home moms)

Reading is something that not only helps us learn about different things but also learn about ourselves. It can provide you with the information you need within that moment or help to provide you with an escape from your every day world. When you are reading  these types of books in order to improve different aspects of your life it is very important to remember that doing some of the stuff and really putting into practice what you have read is crucial. Nothing is going to change unless you do. These books just might bring to light something that you may not have thought of or something that is just so out there that you have to try it to believe it.

What are some of your favorite books?