Something To Think About

“You can’t
change your
life by doing
the same things
every day.”
~Cara Alwill Leyba

Just the other day I finally got my Style Your Mind workbook written by Cara Alwill Leyba. This was the first quote in the book and it is crazy how much I have resonated with it. Because in reality unless you change something that you are doing or have been doing for a long time nothing in your life will be any different. You can wish and wish that things will be different or better but unless you put in some of the work nothing is going to change. It all really depends on you and how much you want something.

The past couple of years I have done a lot of studying about The Secret and the power of your mind. I know a lot of people think that it just seems stupid to just sit and think about all of the things that you want in life and hope that the universe will bring them to you and that everything in your life will be much better. Well, only part of that is true. You have to get clear about what you want. You have to train your mind to stop complaining all the time and seeing all of the negative around you all the time. Now, I’m not saying that having a bad day or feeling some negative feelings are bad, it is just when you are so focused on those negative feelings every day that they seem to take over every area of your life. You have to manage those thoughts and manage your decisions about things. Then really start to work hard for what you want.

I decided to buy the book Stye Your Mind because recently I have felt stuck. Just not knowing where to turn. I am a planner and I like to have goals that I can set and work toward. However, I have never been so undecided about which way I want my life to go. I think that I am finally at a point in my life where I have free range to kind of do what ever I really want. Before I finished high school then went to college which was what everyone was doing. Then I got a job (that I didn’t like) in order to pay my bills and my student loans. So, really, everything that I have done before this were things that I had to do and not necessarily things that I wanted to do in order to change my life.

Now that I am staying at home to raise our son I have time to think about what I would like to try and do with my life. Even if it just starts out as something on the side for now until he is in school. However, there are so many different things that interest me that it is hard to set specific goals to try and achieve something. Then you throw into the mix trying to balance what I want with being a mom and I am at a loss as to which way to go.

I have only started this workbook, however, I am finding it to be very unique and very much something that I need in my life right now. I am a firm believer that I know what I need to do it is just a matter of almost talking it out and finding my own answer within me. Cara is a master life coach and bestselling author. I started following her through her blog The Champagne Diet and now I follow her on social media and listen to her podcasts. This workbook that she has created is full of questions. Questions that make you think about the different areas of your life and it has definitely made me see things differently already. I am realizing different things that I have been doing that have been blocking me from what I really want. I have realized different things about my life and what I thought I really wanted has kind of changed a bit.

I am excited to finish this workbook and to see what other discoveries and aha moments I have. If you are someone like me that has been to talk with a therapist and they just don’t seem to be the right thing to help you figure out stuff in your life, I recommend trying out this book and seeing if you can make some discoveries as well!

Library’s the Hidden Gems

Not many people ever go to the public library anymore in todays society. In our small town we have a branch that is linked to the main public library in the town that is 20 minutes away. At the beginning of the summer I noticed that they were having some pretty fun things for kids in our towns newsletter. One of the things was called Classroom Critters where someone brought in small animals for the kids to see. I made a mental note of it and then put it on the calendar so we would not forget. I figured it might be something fun to do and get us out of the house. As well as check out the library and see if they had anything else going on.

It turns out that there has been this gem within walking distance from our house this entire time. I cannot believe that it has taken us this long to discover it. When we went to Classroom Critters Ray got to see and hold all sorts of little animals. Everything from a tree frog to a snack. He was so excited and though that they animals were so cool. The guy that brought all the animals also did different presentations at some of the schools in the area and for different church groups. It was a lot of fun for the kids and he also helped to include the parents into some of the discussions as well. Ray loved it so now I am making sure that I look for the different things that might be going on there that will peak his interest.


While we were there I was able to get a booklet that told everything that was going on at all the branches throughout the summer. It is crazy how much stuff the library offers.

  • There are things for babies and toddlers such as story time, music and movement, and toddler time.
  • Things for youth and families such as Lego Club, pottery painting, and movies under the stars.
  • For teens they have teen art, iron chef, and even an over night at the library.
  • Even things for adults such as glass etching, a book discussion group, and iPad/ iPhone workshops.

With all of these things going on it is amazing because most of it is free to do. Especially things for the kids. Recently we have also discovered that we are able to check out passes to the Children’s Discovery Museum that is in town that will get us into the museum for free. They only have some many passes to give out so it is a first come, first serve basis however, most people do not know that you can rent the passes. The great part is that you get them for a week so I always try to plan on getting one if is looks like the weather is going to be awful for the week.

Some other things our libraries offer to anyone that is 18 and older is the ability to check out different electronics. They have a few different portable chargers GoPro cameras, iPads or tablets, and even an Apple MacBook. I think that the chargers would be great for going camping for the week or even trying out something like a GoPro before you decide that you really want to make that investment.

I was so surprised at all the different things that the library offers other than just checking out books to read. Especially in the summer they have different special events that are fun for the whole family. I am very glad that we have discovered this and are able to do some more fun things with Ray.

I encourage you to see if your library offers any fun little programs that you or your kids might enjoy. Especially for moms this is a great way to get out of the house and do some different things each week without it costing a bunch!