I am now going into my 6th month of being a stay at home mom. I really love being a stay at home mom, however, it is difficult some days. Especially when the only person you talk to on a daily basis is a toddler. That in and of itself is tough. I will say that talking with my friends/ coworkers is one of the things that I miss the most. I feel like I am out of the loop on a lot of things. Mainly I think that this is because I also worked with a lot of college students so you kind of pick up on what the popular things are in the moment.
When I first stopped working, I thought that it was going to be great. I thought that I was going to teach him tons of things and he was going to love learning from me. I thought that I was going to be able to clean and organize things and really get back into working out all while raising a two year old and starting this blog. But first I wanted to catch back up on all the sleep I lost so I gave myself permission to get up later. I wanted to spend the time in bed cuddling my little man when he decided to crawl into bed with me at 3 in the morning. However, now that we are six months into this. These habits that I have allowed myself to have are not productive for me and they leave me feeling as though I am not doing everything that I could be doing in a day. (Don’t get me wrong, spending time just being able to enjoy little man and not have to rush from one thing to another is great. But something that should not happen every single day.)
There is so much I want to achieve and so much that I want to do with my life. When I was working I felt like I was always in some kind of survival mode. Just trying to do my best of getting up super early, making sure little man was well taken care of, doing a great job at work, and then making sure we were both in bed early enough to get a little bit of sleep before doing it all over again. Now that I do not have work taking up most of my days I find myself wasting a lot of time on my phone checking social media to see what people are doing or I find myself sleeping in and avoiding doing that things that I know are going to help propel me forward.
My biggest piece of advice for working moms deciding to become stay at home moms is to make sure you have a plan in place for not only yourself but also for your little one. Make sure you do not fall into bad habits because it is so easy to do when you do not have a job that you have to be accountable for. You have to become super responsible for yourself. What I mean is when you are a mom you are of course responsible for your little ones, but that does not necessarily mean that your are automatically being responsible for yourself as well. You can choose to sleep in everyday and stay up as late as you want because really the only people that you have to try and please are your kids. And most of the time they don’t even care if you have showered in the past three days. When you are responsible for yourself you make sure you are up at a decent time, that you are taking care of yourself mentally and physically while you are being the best mom you can be to your little ones.
I know for me this is one of the things that I did not think too much about and now that I have already formed my bad habits I now have to try and break those habits and form new and better ones. When I became a stay at home mom I have not had this much “freedom” since I was a junior in high school (the summer before I got my first job). It is a crazy thing to think about. I just do not want to have another couple years go by to where I am wondering what I have done with my life and where did all that time go. I love that I am able to spend my days with little man. I just know that when he gets old enough to be in school I want to make sure that I am not here just wondering what I should be doing with my life and wondering who I am as a person.
So to all the stay at home moms out there that are doing what they need to do for themselves and there little ones I salut you! Just because we are mothers does not mean that we have to loose ourselves in the process. It is a great gift to be a stay at home mom and I am thankful for it every day. Even on those days where it seems like they are never going to end. I would not trade that in for the world! However, I do know that for me, I need to tweak my own routine so that we can have more quality time together and I feel better about my own accomplishments as well.